It got me started thinking this time, when I channeled up to see an older "college professor" (He said!), who was in bed with what looked like a very uncertain, sad, young teenaged girl. (Yeah, you can let your mind stay in the gutter a bit, because he was trash.)
It made me think about all sorts of stuff. (I'm such a thinker, ya know. My brain is filled with minutia!)
Okay Yes, I needed Spell Check to spell minutia.
I was never put in the poor TV girl's position, but when I was an 8th grader in high school, I, (like so many of us innocent girls), was undressed ---by a trashy teacher's eyes, anyway.
He "taught" my Study Hall. 'While I happened to be coming from the rest room one day, my elderly,
(Oh, segue! Remember Seventeen Magazine?? I adored Colleen Corby! I wanted to be her! But that's for another tale for another day!)
So...he stopped me to ask me a question. When teachers stopped you for anything back then--you stopped!
"Hey, Trudy! If I said you had a good body , would you hold it against me?"
I stuttered. I furrowed my eyebrow, waited, and wondered what the right answer was. If I said "Yes.", it would mean that I also thought I did. If I said "No", well wouldn't it mean the same, really?
Yes, I've always been :
1. Paranoid.
2. Un-trusting
3. An idiot.
4. Billions of complicated things.
5. Dumb as a box of rocks.
To preserve what little honor I had garnered in my 13 years on earth, I said "Yes.I.Would!"
I felt sure he could tell that I was looking down my nose at him, preserving my dignity! Or I hoped it looked like that!
(However, that " Yes" was the 'wrong' answer.)
When I said that, (I felt like running, screaming down the hall for "help",
He looked like a very large, leering rat, grinning like a possum. (Do you think rats can leer?) His triumphant pig-like eyes swept over my body,
Oh---and though I was no Aphrodite, I did have thar special quality. I was a living, breathing, half-grown, naive female.
"Well, hold it against me then!" He commanded, with a laugh that I still think was demonic, snorting at his poor joke someone else had obviously made up, He had tried it on the most pathetic, idiotic girl in high school...and how many more were there, just like me?
I know I looked more shocked than you might have....or maybe not! You had to have been more "'cosmopolitan" than I, no matter where you were from! Maybe a male teacher has taken advantage of you, though?
I was lucky to be rescued by our principal, our wonderful Mr.Bodkin, whose soft, squeaky shoes alerted both student and teacher alike, that he, "THE MAN", was coming our way.
(Mr. Bodkin was one of the un-scariest men on earth, but he was mostly all business, and he ruled with a rod of, well,
But he was THE ROCK. He was THE MAN! The all-seeing OZ!
He had eyes in the back of his head, for Pete's sake!
Best of all---he saved the day for me.
I'll never know what the ROCK saved me from that day, but my study hall
And I
(We'll talk about Seventeen Magazine, "belts and pads" and more "coming-of-age stuff" when I can pull myself out of my "mind".)
What's left of it, anyway
Be ye kind, one to another.

I think there was one of those creepy male teacher's in every high school. I never had one like that, but my daughter's had a few uneasy hallway remarks made to them by teachers.
ReplyDeletewanted to say, I agree with you! And even at church, I could not feel safe.
ReplyDeleteJudy, I think women, some before and many since, have "broken the glass ceiling" where older males once ruled. Telling girls and women, "Who's gonna believe you over me !" "Fatherly-types" pulling in naive young girls, scaring them, denying and lying---the usual still goes on these days! :(
DeleteJudy, it was Fathers not just "fatherly" types! I wondered if any girl has escaped this!
DeleteProbably not! Men - and people for that matter - do what they do because they CAN! I was over 50 years old before I discovered that I have a voice....or call it power or control or - even more fundamental - a CHOICE! I learned the skills of surviving and coping early in life but it was late in life when I discovered I do not have to be subjected to everything or anything other people want. It was one of the most important lessons in my life to finally learn that nobody can make me do anything I don't want to do and I'm still celebrating that rather new found freedom!
DeleteI was in my 60s. And it is still in me to placate everyone around me. When it's "Them or Me", "Them" usually come first. :)
DeleteI absolutely hate that happened to you! There was some molestation that happened to me when I was about 4-5. Asleep, I was awakened. It was at my aunt's house and my parents and others were playing cards in another part of the house. I don't believe things like that ever leave us, but something that happened when I was in my 50's; at work when the 'manager' managed to taunt me when the others were out of the office. It brought on a relapse with my emotional problems. I hope he too gets his one day. My psychiatrist told me that he probably had been abused as a child, and some like him recognize it in others. Well, he recognized me. ugh
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